Set Boundaries in Your Workplace and Learn to Say No

I have been working as an executive coach for more than 15 years. People come to me to solve thorny situations in their workplace or to be supported in achieving professional goals. They seek answers to questions like: “How can I demonstrate I am a good leader?”, “How can I get the promotion I deserve this year?”, “How can I manage the stress at work?” or “How can I win my public speaking anxiety and make a good impression at the next town hall meeting” or “I feel trapped by the business; how can I free myself and move forward?”. These are only a few examples of questions that push professionals into a coaching setting, regardless of their role, industry, and background.

But the exciting thing about professional coaching is that it is a thought-proving process, which means we don’t provide easy answers or standard solutions. The coach answers clients’ questions with other more powerful questions to help them get out of their comfort zone, see things from a different perspective and become more aware of who they are and what they want out of their life and career.

So instead of mimicking the “perfect leader,” we help clients develop their leadership style, leveraging their experience, strengths, and emotional intelligence, so they can authentically lead and inspire their teams.

You may be wondering how a coach can do that. Coaching is a fascinating and life-changing process that taps into several disciplines, including many subfields of psychology, sociology, and philosophy. Although several coaching models and methodologies have been developed over the last decades, the coaching practice is based on some fundamental rules.

An example is mastering the art of saying no. With technology, flexible working hours, and ever-changing workplaces, setting healthy boundaries has become a real challenge for many.

You find yourself replying to your boss’s text messages late at night or completing tasks outside the standard working hours. You often feel overwhelmed by being behind in your schedule and tolerate your work taking precious time from your family and passions.

If I asked how you are going to reestablish boundaries between your personal and professional life, the initial reactions probably would be: “My boss doesn’t listen to me,” “It’s out of my hands,” and “None complete this task unless I do it myself” and so on. But are you sure there is nothing you can do? Is nothing in your area of control that you can change?

Saying no is a powerful statement; of course, finding the right way to do it is essential not to compromise our relationships. It is a skill that can be learned to be more productive, more confident, and in control of our time. Declining others’ requests that go beyond the boundaries we established in our personal or professional life, we also honor our need to feel respected and communicate the value of our time and efforts to others.