WHO SHOULD PAY THE BILL ON A FIRST DATE?

Let’s talk the bill, yes! I know it is a lengthy discussion but let us go straight to the point.Who do you think should pay the bill on a first date? You’ve probably gone to that lunch or dinner with your longtime crush and immediately you are done eating your sumptuous meal, boom! The waiter or waitress places the bill on a silver tray and soon your mind starts wondering, who is going to pay the bill?

It is tricky, right? But it is important that we have this conversation once and for all. Sit down and relax with a cup of tea or coffee and let’s have this beautiful conversation!

Who should pay the bill has long been a topic of its own. Honestly if you ask some experts they will be very quick to tell you that a man should always foot the bill on a first date. Others would argue that we are almost in the 22nd century and women are capable of paying the bill because they have been enlightened and empowered economically and financially, so it is not a big deal if they offer to pay the bill. Who do you think is right?

It is important to approach this question with an open mind because it will say a lot about your financial future together. Do not run away from this whole situation, handle it carefully right from the word go, in a way that is both comfortable for you and your partner. If you decide to settle the bill, at least let your date know about your intentions. Ask him or her about how you are going to pay for the bill in a polite manner and offer to pay, if he or she is okay with it.If you would like both of you to split the bill, let your partner know as well. Just don’t assume you are on the same page as far as paying the bill is concerned.

If you are a man and planning to take your crush on a date soon, here are some tips to have in mind as you plan for that fancy date.

Pay the bill and don’t accept to split it on a first date

It is common sense that she will feel the need to split the bill with you or even offer to pay in full but don’t accept it.If you allow her to pay the bill or split the moment she requests to do so, then she will think you are not serious about her and are actually uninterested. Remember, bills are mostly split between friends or established couples not new loves.

Don’t overthink the whole situation

The fact that she allowed you to foot the bill the moment you offered is not enough to conclude that she is just there for your money. The moment you offered to pay the bill you likely expected two outcomes, either she accepts immediately or she gives in after a little convincing. Both of these scenarios are possible.

Avoid insisting too much on paying the bill

Some people just won’t take no for an answer. For reasons best known to them, probably it is how they were brought up. A gentleman will know when to draw a thin line between being gentle and controlling. Don’t insist too much, it will show that you are stubborn. Always stay on the right side!

Know when to chip in as a man

Exceptions do occur in every situation. If it is casual drinks both of you can pay as long as you buy first. For main meals, you as a man should be able to pay for it for the first, second and third date. On the fourth date you can decide to split because at this time you are now used to each other and perhaps are even dating.

TAKEAWAY

Who should pay the bill on a first date shouldn’t be difficult to decide. Always be open about your finances and let your date know when he or she should chip in especially after the second and third date. Remember if you decide to be in a relationship you are probably going to handle finances together in the near future, so being real about your financial situation from the word go is very important. All the best as you prepare to go on your first date! Hope you find this article useful!