Dear [Firstname],

If you’ve ever been curious about what a psychotherapist has to say about love and relationships, you’re in luck.

The esteemed Dr. Heather Browne joined me on the podcast to discuss one of the major keys to relationships–conscious communication. 🔑

In short, conscious communication is thinking before speaking. But what does this look like in a relationship, particularly in the early stages? Here’s what Dr. Heather has to say:

Let’s say it’s important to you that your partner calls or texts you at least once a day. Communicating consciously looks like bringing it up to them and asking, “Can you work with me on this?” Or, “How can we come to a place of agreement?”

So often, we expect things from others, don’t communicate it to them, and then become disappointed when we don’t get what we want. We might think our partner is being careless, thoughtless, or rude when, in reality, they just might not know.

Dr. Heather believes that there should be no expectations, only requests. If someone responds to your request saying, “I’m not willing to do that,” then that’s their truth.

We can’t control what other people do; we can only control ourselves. Conscious communication begins with the mindset, “I am responsible for my thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and actions, as you are for yours.”

Our power is in our ability to respond to their truth and make our own choices about what to do next. 

But it doesn’t stop there. We can also use conscious communication to navigate difficult conversations as the relationship progresses. It can help us come to an agreement about family, money, and even sex–the three places that Dr. Heather says marriages go to die.

Tune into the full episode to learn how to approach these conversations with more honesty, transparency, and intention! You can listen on YouTube, Apple, or Spotify.