Dating in 2000s: What love should look like

It's 2023. Social media is influencing our love lives day in day out. A couple will post their cute goals, and everyone one and their mama wants to be like them, till they announce their break-up and we all go, "how did we get here?". I'll tell you how,if you lock in and read this article and learn a few things about love.

Love is absolutely beautiful when it's done right. It shouldn't necessarily come from a romantic relationship. When you know it's love,it's just breathtakingly beautiful.

One of the ways we absolutely destroy our relationships is by letting our friends know every nook and cranny of the relationship. At this point, just call it an open one. What you fail to realise is, we have different views and opinions on each and every topic. I can't like what you may like and vice versa. Nine times out of ten, you know what sounds right, but you need validation so bad it ends up destroying you. There are situations where you and your person could've easily talked things out and it would play out fine, but you run to your closest friends and they told you to leave totally. Now three years later, you are staring at the ceiling dreaming of what could've been. Clownery. Keep things between yourselves and have a bliss relationship. Once you start seeking somebody else's validation of what your relationship should look like, you are better off in a relationship with that person.

Date everyday. I don't know who pushed the narrative that once you cuff someone, that's that. No it's not. We are intricately woven pieces of art, everyday brings a new desire, a new delight, a new duty. All of a sudden your partner wants to go vegan, your girl just got a Maltese knowing very well she had always found cats cute. You cannot blame them. Dates do not end because you are in a relationship. Make tiktoks together, go hiking, get a job for a minute or two and clock out,then talk about it over a movie. You need to look at them the same way you did from the beginning. Kiss passionately and discover new ways to satisfy each other. It is intimate and passionate. It goes a long way to bring the friendship out of your relationship, which is the most important part of love.

Love does not take record of wrongdoing. It's in my Bible. That's why there are therapists. The longer you keep things to yourself, the more destructive it is to you and your relationship as a whole. You carry one argument into the other and before long, your partner is tired of you. Let it go, for real. Unless your partner has decided to be an intentional knobhead, there's no reason to hold things against them. Communicate your feelings to each other however convenient. Write letters even. If you want to be that couple that stays together for so long that they start to look like, then stop remembering things they did to hurt you. For a couple that are often mistook as siblings, they are together for a long time. What they know is this: there is no such thing as a perfect relationship because there's no such thing as perfect people. Sit down and explain why you are sorry. Explain, is what I said. An apology is not just being sorry. Did you realise how it made them feel? Did you feel bad? How are you going to make it up to them?

Folks, the 'streets' is not looking so good. Be a sucker for love and have butterflies. Stay in love and be beautiful people. I wish you bliss in your relationships.