Title:
Modern Parenting Styles for the Millennial Adults to Parent Less With Laura Elpers Pierce
Summary:
Do you want to teach your child a skill or lesson without having him feel bad?
Do timeouts work?
What are their long-term effects when it comes to teaching kids values, particularly at a young age before their personalities have fully developed?
The relationship you have with your child can shape the way they approach challenges and make decisions. By building a strong, supportive bond with your child, you can help them feel more confident and capable of handling difficult situations.
Meet Laura Pierce, a licensed marriage and family therapist, play therapist, and infant mental health specialist. She primarily supports families with young children by educating and encouraging parents to develop a parenting philosophy that works for their family and promotes their overall well-being.
In this episode, Laura and I offer several ways to manage your child's behavior without hurting your relationship with him. We also share a few tips on how to communicate effectively with your child so that he will be able to better understand and meet your needs.
What you will learn in this episode:
Find out the benefit of choosing to approach discipline as a learning opportunity
Understand the importance of playfulness in managing your child’s emotions
Get to know how a child’s behavior can be a form of communication
"The healthiest way to parent is to keep in mind the parent-child relationship. It's not that the parent is first or that the child is always first, but it's really about the relationship.” - Laura Pierce
Valuable Free Resources:
The Five Relationship Mistakes You’re Making And What To Do About Them: https://www.millenniallifecounseling.com/the5relationshipmistakes
Topics Covered:
09:18 - Valuing the statement, "All feelings are okay, all behaviors are not."
11:47 - How certain behaviors are determined to be not okay
13:14 - The goal of the statement all feelings are okay
15:59 - An important thing for parents to keep in mind when it comes to misbehavior
17:31 - Explaining the concept of HALT
19:18 - How a child’s behavior can be a form of communication
22:13 - What does discipline mean?
23:39 - Using time-out and time-in
26:18 - The benefit of choosing to approach discipline as a learning opportunity
28:39 - Do not do for a child what they can do for themselves
30:32 - How to approach a situation in a relationship-focused manner
34:01 - Offering co-regulation with your child
37:43 - Using play as your main communication strategy
39:54 - Playfulness also helps manage your child’s emotions
43:37 - Integrating play to make your child feel more empowered and excited about doing something
46:42 - Making requests for your child can be an opportunity for him to learn
51:21 - Why having a sense of community is important
56:04 - Grownups never share secrets with kids
57:59 - Teaching your child to learn what it means to say I'm sorry
59:34 - Understanding the idea behind an approach is way more important than getting an approach right
Key Takeaways:
“How you approach a situation is way more important than the situation itself.” - Laura
Pierce
“However you decide to approach a situation is really rooted in your own ability as the grownup to self-regulate.” -Laura Pierce
“If we want to talk to our child, if we want to teach our child, a lot of times we have to use their language to meet them where they are. We have to be playful.” - Laura
Pierce
“When you have that mindset of relationship, learning, and growth, what you choose to say, or how you choose to approach any situation, doesn't hold as much weight because you know that this perspective is ultimately long-term beneficial for your family.” - Laura Pierce
“Relationships are just a constant flow of harmony, disharmony, and repair.” - Liz Higgins
Ways to connect with Liz Higgins:
Ways to connect with Laura Elpers Pierce:
Website: https://www.insightstherapy.com/
