Title:
Build and Sustain Relationships In and Out of Work With Chevonna Gaylor
Summary:
Did you ever feel unsure about how to build meaningful relationships?
What are the things that hold you back from developing friendships as an adult? And what can you do to overcome them?
These are something that many of us struggle with. If you are a person who fears being rejected for being your authentic self, it can be harder for you to open up and connect with others.
Chevonna Gaylor is a licensed marriage and family therapist, mental health expert, trainer, and published author. Although she treats a wide variety of populations, she specializes in trauma.
In this episode, Chevonna and I discuss the different types of relationships and when to step back from them. We also talk about how to become more confident so you can better manage your life with others.
What you will learn in this episode:
Tap into the latest ways to build and maintain relationships
Understand the causes of lost relationships
Improve your communication skills to build stronger relationships
“Every relationship is an opportunity. Even the disastrous ones in the past, even the ones that may have been traumatic or hurtful, we learned something about them. And we learned something about ourselves.” - Chevonna Gaylor
Valuable Free Resources:
The Emerging Healer: Adding insight and impact to your mental health work: https://www.chevonna.com/
Topics Covered:
02: 27 - Types of relationships
11:49 - How to develop a relationship that has passion, intimacy, and commitment
18:07 - What taking appropriate risks means
19:51 - How adults can make friends even when they’re no longer in an institutionalized space
21:58 - The importance of knowing what you like
23:45 - Relationships have to be mutually beneficial
28:25 - When is it time to set a boundary?
32: 00 - Don't be forceful in being invited into someone else's life
33:55 - Knowing each other’s communication styles and needs are worth it
36:11 - Dating yourself
38:28 - Building the muscle of distress tolerance
39:12 - Ways to overcome the muscle of distress tolerance
42:06 - Looking back at your relationships and learning from them
Key Takeaways:
“When you grow, the people in your life are going to grow slow or go.” - Chevonna Gaylor
“If you don't assess what you and the other person need from your relationship, you become unaware of them. And, then, sometimes you become the person that drains a lot of other people around.” - Chevonna Gaylor
“When you have a meal, you should have all the different components of a meal. You have your protein, your sides. No one should be the entire meal. Yes, we talked about consummate love where there's passion, intimacy, and commitment. And that's beautiful. But, even that person shouldn't be the whole plate. Because if for whatever reason that person is not there, then, you have no nourishment.” - Chevonna Gaylor
Ways to connect with Autumn Colllier:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ladyandthecouch/
Website: https://ladyandthecouch.com/
Ways to connect with Chevonna Gaylor:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chevonna.gaylor
Website: https://www.chevonna.com/
