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The Speedbump sex position is a modified version of Doggy Style, with even more comfort – for the receiver, at least! Essentially, it’s one of the most popular sex positions of any pillow princess.

To get in position, have the receiver lie face down on the bed, on their stomach. They can keep their legs open or slightly apart, depending on comfort – you can adjust later if needed. Now, arch your back slightly and lift your hips – that’s your Speedbump. For added comfort, add a pillow or sex wedge underneath your pelvis to keep those hips raised.

Next, it’s time for the giver to get in position: Simply position your knees outside your lover’s legs and lower yourself to slip inside them from behind. Thrust and enjoy.

Speed towards pleasure

The Speedbump is a beginner-friendly sex position that might be enticing for those who like Doggy Style but dislike the tricky logistics – y’know when you can’t get a good grip on the bed? Or the giver’s penis keeps slipping out? Yeah, none of that.

It’s a great G-spot sex position, since the penis will press up against the front wall of the vagina from within, while lying on your front will naturally tease the clitoris at the same time. Double the pleasure.

And it’s not just the receiving partner’s G-spot being pleased. “Here, you’re in prime position to stimulate the back of the neck, lower back, and butt cheeks with ease,” says sex educator Javay Frye-Nekrasova (a.k.a Javay da BAE).

If you’re unfamiliar with erogenous zones; they’re your body’s pleasure centers that spark sexual arousal when touched the right way. From the nape of your neck to your inner thighs and feet, stimulation of these spots can send you into a sensual orbit.

At first glance, the Speedbump is a straightforward sex position – but it can feel even more incredible with just a few tweaks. From getting in the mood with massage, to toying with backdoor pleasure, get all the tips below.

Before picking up speed, ease each other into physical intimacy with a sensual massage. Physical touch can be relaxing, while tuning out the stress of the week is crucial to feeling turned on and staying present during sex.

To start, rub massage oil between your palms to warm up your hands. Start at your lover’s feet and apply varying pressure as you massage them in small circles. Slowly work your way up their calves and thighs, teasing around their butt and groin as they beg for more.

Transition to sex with mutual masturbation, a.k.a. self-pleasuring while you watch each other. To raise the temperature, try holding eye contact, talking dirty, or even directing each other as to where to touch yourselves.

Lubricants are always recommended for adding slip and intensifying sensation. Using lube reduces friction – particularly important if you like vigorous sex as it protects the delicate genital skin from tearing.

Look out for a good quality, water-based lube, because it’s safe to use with sex toys and condoms.

As the giver, be mindful of your arm positioning – the last thing you want is a cramp during sexy time. If your arms get tired, “consider alternating with your forearms, which will also give you the chance to whisper dirty things in your partner's ear,” says Javay.

The receiver can place their arms above their head, under the pillow, or on their side – whatever feels most comfortable.

The giver might get frustrated at first that they can’t thrust as vigorously as they would during Doggy Style. But it’s much easier to get the angle right if the receiver’s hips are raised slightly, rather than flat on the bed.

Javay recommends a sex wedge: “It’s a better choice than a regular pillow because it holds its shape while you’re using it – unlike regular pillows which just flatten and offer no support.”

As the giver, try rocking and grinding rather than wild thrusting. The receiver can also pull their butt cheeks apart to allow the receiver to sink in more deeply.

And if you generally struggle to get the depth you crave, some couples find penis sleeves useful. These toys add width and length – sometimes even a deliciously ribbed texture – so you can enjoy the closeness of penetration with a little something extra.

The Speedbump offers plenty of G-spot stimulation, but what about a blended orgasm? This happens when you combine multiple erogenous sensations – such as G-spot and clitoral stimulation.

One easy, low-cost way to achieve this is with a bullet vibrator. This pinpoint of pleasure can be tucked between the receiver’s pelvis and pillows to tease the clitoris. Javay also recommends using a bullet vibe “for nipple stimulation”. Try this before you lie on your front and notice how much more sensitive your nipples feel when in position.

In this position, the booty is all raised up and begging for worship. Before penetration, the giver can tease their lover with (consensual) slaps, caresses, or kisses. Tell your lover how good their behind looks in this position and how excited you are to... well, you get the idea.

“You could add in some anal play with a vibrating butt plug, as well,” says Javay. Either partner can wear a butt plug while you play, bringing a satisfying sensation of fullness. If you’ve got a vulva, the vibrations will tease your sensitive clitoral areas from within. If you’ve got a penis, a butt plug will tease your prostate – also known as the male G-spot.

We love the Speedbump, but every body is different! One of these variations might suit you better. If you play with a strap-on, for example, you might find it difficult to make the angles work without modification. Check out the recommendations below for even more inspiration.

The receiver lies on their back with their knees dropped over to one side. The giver straddles the receiver’s lower leg, slipping inside while the receiver wraps their top leg around the giver’s hips.

According to Javay, the gentle twist “allows for deeper penetration and better access to specific pleasure points like the A-spot or the cervix.” You might also find this beneficial if the giver’s penis is on the smaller side, since there’s even less chance of slipping out.

The novelty of the Pretzel is tantalizing enough but, if you’re craving more, grab a cock ring. These toys are worn at the base of the penis and might help you maintain a strong, firm erection. Vibrating cock rings send a thrilling little buzz down the shaft of the penis, offering extra stimulation to both partners.

If you grab a stack of cushions or a sex position wedge, the receiver will have something to rest against, making the position a little more comfy. Raising the pelvis also “ensures stability and easier control”, which Javay says is a must for first-time strap-on users.

As the receiver, you might like arching your back to allow for deeper penetration – but be sure to use plenty of lube to protect your delicate internal tissue. And make sure you tell your partner to stop if you feel any discomfort.

This is a popular plus-sized sex position and alternative to Doggy, since it eases pressure off the wrist joints. Meanwhile, the receiver might enjoy grinding their clitoris – or penis – into a toy wedged into pillows.

Squeezing the legs together will make the anus feel tighter, which can feel more intense for both giver and receiver. “Just be sure to do the prep work to ensure pleasurable anal sex,” say Javay.

If you’ve never done anal before, try anal masturbation using a finger or small anal toy first. Make sure whatever you insert into the anus has a flared base – otherwise it could get ‘lost’ inside you. And always, always use anal lube to avoid injury.

If the receiver has a vagina, try a wearable vibrator like the We-Vibe Chorus. These c-shaped silicone toys send deep, rumbly vibrations to your G-spot while you’re enjoying penetrative sex (whether that’s anally or vaginally). The combination of sensations could result in a mind-blowing, blended, and unforgettable orgasm.