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If you’re like most of the women I’ve coached, you’ve probably experienced that unsettling feeling that can come in the early stages of dating.

Maybe you’ve gone out a few times with a guy and thought things were going great, but all of the sudden poof he stops calling and that’s where things end. You’re left chasing him and questioning your own self worth, asking yourself…

Why am I not hearing from him?

Why isn’t he asking me out again?

Did I say something to turn him off?

Have I done something wrong?

Did I scare him off?

We’ve all been there! You want him to pursue you, not the other way around. So how do you get out of this cycle and break those habits?

This is your sign to slow down and implement what I call the 3 R’s so you can start attracting the men who chase and pursue you, not the other way around.

It’s all too easy to start jumping to conclusions and begin reliving every little detail of every interaction you’ve had with the man you’re dating. This is how it always happens when things aren’t going the way you expected, especially when you thought things were off to a great start. Regardless of what’s going on, I want you to take a pause and really notice those thoughts you’re having and what is happening in your body.

Can you feel the tension, constriction, anxiety? Maybe you’ve got an increased heart rate or knots in your stomach? Can’t sleep because your brain won’t turn off?

Whenever you start to have that awareness around those negative feelings in your body and spiraling out with your thoughts, that’s your cue to relax. That’s the only way you’re going to get out of that fight or flight mode so you can zoom out and step into a more balanced perspective around the situation. You’re gonna feel your intuition actually come back online and give yourself capacity for greater decision making. Because let’s be honest here, how many of us make good decisions when we’re triggered or feeling abandoned? 

Take a beat, collect and ground yourself, and then regroup. Your perception is going to shift and the situation is going to look entirely different. You might even realize that you don’t even really like the guy.

Once you’ve pulled yourself out of that fight or flight energy, you’re going to redirect your energy off of that man and off of that connection. We want to attract and magnetize the man we want and have him pursuing us! It’s easy to underestimate just how much we can all pick up on that subconscious energy.

When you’re stressing over him, questioning your worth, and are always the one to message first, that has an energetic impact. And guess what? He can feel it, even if you don’t think you’re letting it show. Suddenly, you’ve stepped into that pursuing role instead of him.

So, what does it look like to redirect that energy? Instead of fretting over every minor detail, you’re going to bring yourself back to Earth and your life to focus on YOU! Do things that feel fulfilling, practice self-care, nurture those balanced relationships in your life, and take that man off the hook!

He doesn’t have to reach out again because you don’t need that from him. Focus on the things you can control and find ways to meet your own needs. One of the ways I encourage my clients to do this, is to have a toolkit ready to go and ready to lean on so you can shift your energy to instantly feel lighter and clearer.

After you’ve relaxed and redirected all of that energy back to yourself, you’re going to release the attachment you have to that man and that relationship. I know, I know. It’s sooo much easier said than done. But, if you don’t work on letting go, the first two R’s are just bandaid solutions. Things might be great for a while, but before long, you’re right back where you started and stuck repeating the same cycles.

Releasing attachment is so powerful because at the end of the day you don’t need that validation, reassurance, or confidence boost from him for any reason. When you anchor into and embrace that, you reclaim your power. You’re the one who gets to decide if you’re blessing or releasing the connection. You are in control.

And if you’ve got some of the same spiritual beliefs as I do, you know that you’re not going to miss out on the right guy. He’s going to find you. And if this connection isn’t progressing, then he’s not your man. 

Release him and bring yourself back to the present.

When you’ve got a great connection with a man, but he’s not pursuing you and you start to feel that space, it’s okay to give him a cue that you’re interested. Just like us women, men can get stuck in their own heads too. If you want things to progress a little further, it’s okay to give the man a greenlight. Let him know that you’re interested and ready to move forward. It can be something as simple as letting him know you enjoyed your last date and you hope to see him again.

Once you give him the greenlight, you also have to be prepared for the gap that comes between that cue and him picking it up and moving forward. Remember that this is a void that you intentionally created so that you can get the results that you want. You have to embrace the space.

You sent him the signal and now your work is done. Sit back and watch what he does with it. You may not get the response or action that you want, but that’s okay. This is not the time to start over-functioning and trying to get his attention. Remember what I said about energy? If you want to attract him and have him pursue you, don’t step into that role yourself.

If you feel yourself stressing, connect with a trusted friend and talk through it. Creating that checkpoint and getting an outside perspective can stop you from getting back into that cycle. When in doubt, revisit the 3 R’s. 

This is also why I encourage my clients to create options while dating… AKA a man funnel. It takes the pressure off of needing just one connection to work out. If one man doesn’t pick up and run with your greenlight, it doesn’t even matter because you’ve got other options. You’re more likely to feel those negative things when you’re in a scarcity mindset, thinking you have to make this connection work. You have options. 

Let’s see how far things can actually go when you’re not the one pushing them forward and see what men gravitate towards you! And if things don’t work out, be confident with your boundaries and end the connection. Your man will come along.

Interested in working with me to reclaim your power in your dating life? Check out my Work With Me page to learn more about my offerings and ways we can work together. Let’s talk soon!