How to Handle Breakups/Breakfast Served in a Relationship

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Whew!!!

Finally, I get to write after so many weeks and I am excited about this.

I’m sorry I haven’t written to you for a long time, so I’m making it up to you.

For those of you that don’t know what being served breakfast in a relationship means, it means to have your heart broken by someone you love, and it could be a friend or someone you’re in a romantic relationship with.

Now, I’d like to share how I handled my last breakup…

PS: The guy didn’t serve me breakfast o, it was a mutual decision we both made to break up because the relationship wasn’t looking like what has life in it, so it’s better we kill it fully.

So I really liked this guy, and the feeling was mutual. You know that kind of butterflies that play beautifully in your stomach and you feel “yes this is the best love ever”…

So we dated for a while and hmmm, issues started strolling into our relationship like it’s having a walk in the park.

Every relationship has issues that they face, but ours wasn’t something we could resolve just by talking things out so we both made a decision to end it and boy was I pained.

It was sad to end things with him because I really liked him and never do I want the relationship to end, but there was nothing we could do about it.

It took me months to get over him and I kinda stalked him on social media (which is a very bad thing to do by the way but as per FBI babe, I did.)

What, could I do, I obviously still liked him and wanted to know what was going on in his life: if he had a new girlfriend and had moved on and stuff.

At a point, it felt like I was gonna text him and say “hey, let’s get back together” but my friends helped me not to do that, and guess what, I finally got over him!

See! There are things I did that made me get rid of him.

Now I’m sure you really want to know how I got over him, so I will be generous enough to spill the steps…

>>>Don’t blame yourself: There’s always this urge to blame yourself and feel like you’re responsible for what happened or that you’re just not good enough to be with them and they’re too good for you.

Don’t do this!!!

Because doing this would definitely not bring back the person and you might just end up hurting yourself and thinking that you’d never be good enough for anyone.

Always try to reassure yourself, just because it didn’t work out with the first person doesn’t mean that it won’t ever work out.

Love yourself, take care of yourself, and speak only positive and affirmative words that give you confidence.

>>>Keep yourself busy: Keep yourself busy with things that are very important to you. Get a job, learn a skill, take a course, anything that would distract you and stop you from thinking about your ex.

Now it might seem impossible or not doable at first but when you keep doing other things that you can focus your mind on, you’d gradually start to get over your ex.

>>>Talk to your friends and family members, and meet new people. Your friends and family might not know how you feel but they’d definitely try their best to make you feel better because they love you.

They might not necessarily give you relationship advice but talking to people closest to you would make you feel better. Talk about your feelings, and emotions, cry as much as you want in front of them and let it all out. You would feel better when you do this.

>>>Try to sleep well, eat well and enjoy life. This isn’t the time to starve yourself of good food and sound sleep.

Eat well, watch movies, and sleep well cause you’re definitely not the first person to experience a breakup, many people did and they got over it so you can too.

Don’t starve yourself because of something that you had little or no control over cause it wouldn’t benefit you in any way.

>>>Take care of yourself and look good at all times. Don’t stop glowing. This is the time for you to care for your body and mind at all times.

When you’re going out, don’t look like someone that has just been served breakfast and has cried his/her eyes out, look good, invest in your skin, wear nice clothes, keep your hair clean and invest in things that boost your self-confidence.

Now, these are practical steps and would take time, don’t be too hard on yourself and feel like it’s not working or you can’t do it. You can and I’m rooting for you!

If you have ever been involved in a breakup, you can share the steps that helped you get over your ex in the comments, and don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to get free relationship and lifestyle tips in your mail.

Till next time, stay safe!