1#: Confidence #Self-confidence #Self improvement

It is known that some individuals were brought to the world with intimidating behaviors or characteristics, and this makes it really unpleasant to those that don't find themselves lucky in such aspect on finally coming in contact with the world.

When intimidation comes to mind, we are thinking, overpowering, demanding, authoritative, unnerving, subduction and oppression. Now I ask, could this act of domineering and terrifying be anything positive?

The purpose of mastering the art of intimidation is more than instilling fright or some sort of fear of ourselves in people around us, preferably, to build an invulnerable esteem for oneself. Rather than being a technique for persuasion, it is a method of becoming highly respected and seen from a view of greatness.

To achieve this there are certain tactics that can be employed. Below are such characteristics you need to undoubtedly demonstrate:

Always Look Good: To successfully achieve the art of intimidation you must always look good, because just like any hard drug, when you look good you automatically feel on top of the world. In addition to the fact that when you look better than someone, they start to feel inferior, be it consciously or subconsciously.

When you look good you build a certain level of confidence and comfortability which attracts positivity, and that is your pilot game.

2. The Perfect Posture: Your posture says a lot about your esteem, which is why having the right posture means a whole lot. In the sense that, when you walk, you should move with your arms out at your sides. When you sit, you lean backwards with your arms at your sides and legs moderately apart. When you stand, you do not cuddle your arms, but keep them by your sides, with your legs slightly apart.

POV: Do not fold yourself, be relaxed, stretched out, not closed, be unshut.

However, walking into a room, avoid lowering your eyes or keeping them on your phone. When you walk into a room filled with people, make a stop at the entrance, take two steps with your legs slightly apart, take a 2 to 3 seconds survey of the entire room, then proceed to your required destination or seat.

3.Wearing the Right Smile: Wearing a confident smile could get typically anyone to succumb to you. To achieve the purpose of intimidation, when you smile, do so with your teeth visible. Avoid covering your mouth with your hand when smiling or laughing, because smiling with your hands over your mouth says in bold “No self-confidence.”

The right smile has the capability to command anyone under your influence.

4. When to Talk and How to Talk: Intimidation comes with respect and trust me when I say a loquacious person is often disregarded. You want to know when to speak and make sure to have a very meaningful thing to contribute to the conversation. It could be an experience or some knowledge you own, it could also be something you learned. Just make sure it makes sense and often brief.

Try not to stutter. Although it is quite inevitable but do your best to limit the times you do so or don't do it at all! When someone I am listening to stutters during a conversation, firstly, I start to think they are in doubt with themselves and aren't so sure of what it is they are saying. It also shows a lack of confidence, and intimidation is all about confidence.

5. The Power of a Stare: I guess I saved the best for the last. No other technique of intimidation gets your target to subdue much more than this. Firstly, avoiding glances and stares from people only tells them you are not confident in the slightest. An unbroken and direct peer results in two kinds of reactions, a fight or a flight. A continuous gaze is enough to do the trick of intimidation.

To intimidate someone with your stare, you don't just stare at them nonstop. Don't do this! You would only let one make a creep out of you. Rather you could do this, tilt your head forward slightly, squint your eyes and push your eyebrows together, then down and stare for some time to confuse them. This works on people depending on how you look.

Over the past years, from so much research and reading, there can be no form of success or greatness without confidence.

Thanks for reading!

Ella Ubani.