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Sep 5, 2024

The first time you say "I love you" carries immense weight, often accompanied by fluttering excitement and profound emotion. Over time, however, those three words can become routine, uttered more out of habit than heartfelt intention. While it's true that actions often speak louder than words, I would argue that when those words are delivered from a place of genuine, heart-centered intention, they have the power to transform your relationship—deepening your connection and making it stronger than ever.

While you might choose to save a handwritten romantic love letter for special occasions like anniversaries, birthdays, or Valentine’s Day, imagine instead infusing bits of that heartfelt message into your daily interactions. By sprinkling these tender sentiments throughout your everyday conversations, you add layers of vibrancy and depth to your relationship, making each day feel special and full of love. This daily practice of sharing your feelings doesn't require grand gestures or lengthy declarations; even the simplest expressions can create a ripple effect of warmth and connection.

In the following sections, we'll explore how you can use love notes and intentional communication to keep true love alive and thriving with your man.

For many couples, the only quality time they share is during dinner when both are off work. Even then, they might be distracted by the TV, kids needing attention, or the stress of the day weighing on them. Worse still, those brief moments before goodnight kisses might be the closest they get to quality time. For couples who don’t have the luxury of seeing each other every day, the quality of their time together can be significantly diminished, involving even more intentionality. Initially, relationships are built on the desire to feel seen, have needs met, and find solace in each other. However, if you start prioritizing your relationship less and less, that soulmate feeling can start to fade and feel more like fiction.

But it doesn’t have to be that way! Whether you’re experiencing that dullness or simply want to nurture your bond further, taking a moment out of your busy day to think about your partner and express your love—through words, a picture, or a simple gesture—can significantly enrich your relationship and reignite that lost connection.

Daily positive interactions with your loved one not only deepen your connection but also make it easier to navigate conflicts when they arise. Dr. John Gottman, a renowned psychologist, discovered the principle of the 5:1 ratio in successful relationships—meaning for every negative interaction, there are five positive ones. By expressing your gratitude and love daily, you help ensure the longevity and resilience of your relationship, creating a strong bond that can effortlessly manage conflicts.

Moreover, research has shown that daily expressions of love significantly reduce stress within relationships. When your relationship thrives, it positively impacts every aspect of your life, like breaking a dam and letting the flood of positive emotions flow freely. This not only enhances your connection with your partner but also opens you up to greater joy and fulfillment in life.

Whether your partner is a rugged man or in touch with his sensitive side, all men appreciate sincere compliments, heartfelt words, and playful teasing—especially from their love. A Canadian study published in Psychology Today revealed that men are most turned on by feeling desired, emotional connection, and unexpected sexual opportunities. All of which can be conveyed through love letters.

Men value consistency, and dedicating time each day to craft a thoughtful love note for him demonstrates a deep level of commitment and loyalty that strengthens your bond. This daily practice also enhances your communication skills, making it easier to converse and connect on a deeper level. As you express your feelings regularly and create more openness, you foster greater emotional intimacy and understanding.

Love notes throughout the day offer the perfect chance to tease him and spice up your intimate connection. Imagine this: your partner, feeling nervous as he heads to a meeting to give a presentation, opens his Waffle app to read a spirited message of what awaits him when he gets home. Now that will give him the boost of confidence and joy he needs to nail that presentation ( no pun intended). This kind of lighthearted, playful interaction not only invigorates your relationship but also sparks creativity both in and out of the bedroom.

One of my favorite stories from a Waffle user illustrates the profound way she is using love letters for her man. She shared:

An ongoing journal of your feelings for your partner can be a timeless and invaluable gift, offering a lasting testament to your deep love.

Using the Waffle app is like having a virtual sticky notepad that stays with him wherever he goes. Unlike traditional sticky notes that can be tossed or misplaced, Waffle provides an ongoing stream of your loving messages, allowing you to watch your connection grow and evolve over time through life's journeys—how special is that?!

Unlike text messages, where your words can easily get lost or interrupted by other conversations, Waffle ensures that your sentiments are received and appreciated without distraction. It also creates an intimate space for all your messages, eliminating the risk of a spicy note appearing above a message to your boss or accidentally sending something intended for him to someone else- whoops!

The way you express your love will be unique to your personality and your relationship, but here are three tips to help you get started with writing love notes to him.

1. Reflect on Your Connection: Take a moment to feel into your partner and your relationship, and create two lists: one with words or simple phrases describing how they make you feel, and another with words that capture their essence. Use these to craft a thoughtful message each day. For example, "Thinking of you and the tenderness you bring to everything you do," where "tenderness" reflects how you see them, or "You give me the confidence to be who I am with ease, thank you for being my best friend and guiding light." expressing how they make you feel empowered.

2. Dream Together: Engage in daydreaming throughout your day—it’s healthy and strengthens your bond. Share your dreams and desires with your partner through love notes. For instance, if you see a happy family and you’ve both been dreaming of having kids, you might write, "I can't wait to build a family with you and see you as a father. All this hard work will pay off my love." Or spark some spontaneity with a note like, "Hey love, Lake, beach, or forest? I’m craving an escape with you."

3. Keep It Playful: Send silly photos and lighthearted messages to maintain playfulness in your relationship. A little humor goes a long way in keeping things fun and vibrant.

Alisha, a Waffle user, uses it to share appreciation for her partner. She writes:

Showing appreciation and gratitude is another great tip for writing love notes!

Creating rituals in your day-to-day life brings a deeper sense of meaning to the otherwise mundane. Whether it’s the time spent cooking, walking to your car, or winding down for sleep, infusing each moment with presence and reflection gives your soul something to dance about each passing day. Let this daily love letter become a ritual, one that, with dedication, builds something more profound than you can even imagine.

The key to creating a love letter ritual that lasts is to shift your perspective. Instead of viewing it as something you need to do, find a time when you want to do it. Let the moment naturally find you, allowing your messages to flow with greater authenticity. Don’t worry about finding the right words, just express. Remember, these love notes are like sprinkles—little breadcrumbs of affection. They don’t have to be lengthy poems; a simple message, short love letter, or a goofy photo will do.

Ashley makes it a daily ritual to use Waffle with her boyfriend and send love messages. She writes:

Let your fairytale love story be not a memory of the past, but an ongoing evolution, as you dive deeper into connection and open yourselves more fully to each other's love.